This post is a part of the With Love series.

How easy it is to feel unwanted and dejected! This is such an intricate part of human emotions. We want the things that we do to matter and we want to know that we mean something to someone. Therefore, it is so easy to feel rejected when our actions towards others are not appreciated.

Rejection is a bad feeling, but similar to feeling hurtful, it helps build character. It is society’s way of helping us shape our actions. Rejection is an opportunity for us to revisit our actions and our being and shape it so that more people will benefit from our doings. When we shape our actions based on the feedback of others we get better at helping others and we soon learn that we can help in many more ways than what we previously dreamed of.
When I feel rejected, I look at myself in the mirror and say, “I love myself. I am safe. I am loveable!” I am truly loved and cherished!

• I know it’s possible for me to be loved
• I know how it feels to be loved
• It is natural for me to be loved

Today I will tell myself that I’m lovable. Just because some people haven’t been able to love me, it doesn’t mean that I’m unlovable. I’ve had lesson to learn, and some of them have hurt deeply, but still I can love, and I still am loved.

~ Melody Beattie

Be thankful for what is good

Sometimes, it is necessary for you to make yourself remember how loveably you truly are. We can achieve this easily by making a list of the following. Start by making a list of the ten aspects about yourself that make you loveable, as well as ten moments you felt loveable. Continue with this list until you have one hundred lovable aspects and moments. And then, every time you feel rejection, pull out this this list and read it until you shake that feeling off.

Checklist for today

• Think back to a time you felt rejected for something you did for others, or when you felt rejected from a social group.
• Try and get a different perspective on this rejection and try to see yourself through the eyes of your offender. And then try to see what you can learn from it. How can you use this to make yourself better?
• Make a list of 10 aspects about yourself that you love, and then 10 moments that you felt lovable. Repeat this process until you have a list of 100 reasons to feel lovable.
• Whenever you feel rejected in future, read through this list until the feeling of rejection disappears.